Practical things to do....
...to create peace and harmony within.
The aim of this page is to provide you with a few practical tools to use if you would like to begin to change some old, disharmonious patterns. Please feel free to take whatever attracts you
and discard whatever doesn't.
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Life is about the choices we make every minute of every day. We create peace or drama, moment by moment, choice by choice. Once I was the biggest drama queen I could be. I often felt like a victim who was powerless to change the things that were making me so unhappy as I believed 'other people' were responsible for the way I felt. I had very little understanding of the need to take responsibility for my happiness (or unhappiness), thoughts, actions, needs and wants.
For a very long time my victim/drama choice was an unconscious one, the product of old conditioning and beliefs echoing from generations past. Even after I became aware of this destructive pattern, I continued to create drama after drama simply because it made me feel so alive and I feared being peaceful
might be boring.
Eventually, as my worn out adrenals went into overload, I suffered a complete physical and emotional collapse, total burn-out which developed into Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. I then realize being peaceful might not be such a boring alternative after all. So I set about finding a way to release all the drama and create peace in my life instead.
Here's what worked for me...
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Gratitude & the Law of Attraction
The Law of Attraction states that whatever we focus on, we create. Holding our attention on peace and tranquility will create more of the same. Focusing on and continually jumping into drama will create more 'victim' energy and stress in our lives as we feel powerless to change our circumstances. These we may not be in a position to change at that point, but we can always choose to change how we feel.
In doing so, the trying circumstances may even begin to alter
as the energy shifts, moves and flows in a new direction.
Using the Conscious Breath and day-dreaming (with your focus soft rather than intense) about the reality we would most like to create begins to build and draw it into our reality if we choose to breathe it in.
We can also use our breath to release anxiety, stress etc as we breathe out, then breathe in peace, tranquility and contentment - which almost sounds too simple but is, in fact, very effective if a quiet space is set aside each day to simply breathe deeply for a short period of time.
The most simple yet powerful way to create more of what we like
is to feel and express gratitude for all the people,
situations and things we appreciate in our life right now.
An Attitude of Graditude can create a powerful shift in energy, even enabling people involved in a conflict to see things differently, creating an opportunity for peace to enter through a once-shut doorway.
It acts like a magnet to attract more of whatever you like in your life.
Be aware that focusing too intently on an issue will push it away rather than bring it towards you. Allow your thoughts to be gentle; breathe deeply but softly, feel gratitude for the person or situation, bless it and let it go. Once a day is more than enough to repeat this exercise.
Similarly, the Law of Attraction states that:-
- whatever we put out comes back to us, magnified,
- what goes around, comes around,
- and we shall be treated as we treat others.
All very simple premises, but very effective, nonetheless, and good to remember from time to time when choosing to create peace and harmony.
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Drama or Peace?
Once I reached saturation point with the 'drama game' I had been playing with myself for a very long time, I developed this little exercise
to break what had become a habit.
Every time I feel myself reacting to (i.e. feeling anger, frustration or judgment towards) a person or situation (which used to be often!) I hold out my right hand and say 'I can choose drama...' while allowing myself to feel the developing drama in the palm of my hand.
I then hold out my left hand, saying '...or I can choose peace', becoming aware of the potential for peace that now sits in my hand.
Next I feel both choices/potentials balanced in my hands and ask
'Which do I want?', close my eyes, state firmly 'I CHOOSE PEACE' while bringing both hands together, then turning them towards my chest, one over the other and gently placing my palms over my heart.
I then spend a few moments breathing in wonderful peace (which has simply but effectively dissolved the drama), allow it to expand and flow in to my whole body, then extend it into my surroundings.
And, every time, the drama melts away instantly. I am then able to respond to the situation and do whatever needs doing to move forward
in balance and harmony once more.
As with every new skill, this takes practice. The reward has proven to be a much more peaceful and tranquil life which is in no way boring!
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'My Space' Bubble
To create your own personal safe/tranquil space, you might like to try using a very simple tool - the Breath. Begin by breathing gently into your belly area while placing your focus on peace, tranquility and whatever else you desire in the space surrounding you. Then as you breathe, allow peace and tranquility to fall into your body, slowly sinking into the cells of your body, then into the space between the cells.
Once you have done this, remind yourself that nothing comes into this space which surrounds and fills you unless you invite it in. Spend a little time choosing things to create, then breathe them in gently, allowing them to flow around you and through you. It's helpful to use all your senses during this exercise; see, hear, smell, taste and touch it as you create.
It's a good idea to include the thought 'I choose to gently release all that no longer serves me' as you breathe out. Invite in only that which supports you, affirming everything else will simply bounce right off the bubble or flow through it without touching you.
Remember - you can only choose for yourself. You are responsible only for you as all others are responsible for themselves. However, the peaceful, tranquil reality you create, if you choose to, will ripple out to touch all those around you, showing them they have a choice also.
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The Short Wall
Choosing to react in a fiery situation often invites a reaction back; choosing rather to respond calmly (once we've taken responsibility for our own issues - see below) with understanding and compassion invites in
a response from the other person.
A reactive situation of conflict is like a ping-pong game with the flaming ball flying rapidly to and fro between the players.
Either person can stop the game very effectively simply by choosing to put the ball down and step back.
Taking a step from reaction to response is as simple as stepping behind a short wall. We can construct this wall in our mind and mentally step behind it, allowing the conflict to remain on the other side.
This takes us out of the emotion and into balance and harmony.
From here we are better able find a way to resolve the issue.
For more information on The Short Wall, please go to The Crimson Circle - Other Channels - The Creator Series - Lesson 1
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Reflections
It's helpful, I have found, to be aware that whenever we react to something another person does or says, we are being shown
the reflection of a pattern within us that needs our attention.
To react means we either judge or blame someone else for actions that make us feel victimised in some way. Or perhaps we feel they are victimising someone else - it's all the same thing.
The signal that we are reacting often comes with feelings of anger, frustration, impatience or any other negative emotion
we may be directing towards someone else. This is an indication that we are not taking responsibility for the issues within us
that our Soul Self would like us to heal.
So how do we work out what is ours to heal?
We ask ourself what it is we want the other to do more or less of so it stops bugging us.
What exactly is it that is pushing our buttons?
While I was once complaining angrily to a friend about all the 'dreadful' things another person in my life was doing, she said 'Stop! Get a pen and write down everything this person is doing wrong in your eyes - then own it!' I didn't even have to write anything down as the penny dropped instantly and I understood the issues were my own. Ouch!! As I took responsibility, the intensity I'd been feeling evaporated
and the issues no longer concerned me.
Whatever we are reacting to in the other person is the key to the issue we need to deal with within ourself. Once we recognise it, take responsibility, alter, heal or deal with the pattern within ourselves, our buttons can't be pushed as we no longer need the trigger. Instead, we are able to respond with compassion and understanding which creates much welcomed balance and harmony once more.
I know this can be quite confronting as we begin to understand the power of reflections, but I invite you to just imagine for a moment - if every single person on the planet took responsibility for their thoughts, feelings and actions without trying to judge or blame anyone else,
what would happen?
Everything would change, wouldn't it? There would be no conflict!
We can assist the creation of peace on Earth most powerfully by creating peace within ourselves, knowing that as we do so, it will ripple out to touch those around us in a most profound way, spreading like a blanket of tranquility over stormy waters to touch the hearts of all those ready to step into the new way of being.
And wouldn't that be something? Let the breathing begin!
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And at this point, I would like to say thank you to you
for taking the time to read this page!
I hope you've discovered something to help make your life a little easier with a growing understanding of how, as peace begins inside your own being, the warm glow can touch everyone you meet,
every day, in every way.
Many blessings!
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